Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Hold 'em Close


Today, I let my Miss E. sleep in. She's been missing me...and, whether it was "right" or "wrong", it's what I decided to do.


I knew she needed a little extra Mama time, a few hugs, some extra snuggling...and sometimes (just sometimes), I think things like that are more important than school.

It's not that I don't think education is important. Not. At. All. It's just that I think life...and living is more important.

When I dropped her off at school, I was signing her in...and the secretary (whom, I adore...), said to Miss E., "Alright, why don't you head on up and get ready for lunch!"

Miss E. looked at me with those crystal clear blues of hers, and I could see right to her soul.


"Would you like me to walk up with you?" I asked her.

She nodded, and smiled...and then...

Mrs. P (the secretary) said, "Miss E.! Really? You can't walk up by yourself?!"

And I wanted to push the pause button...I wanted to reach down into the depths of my spineless being...and ask Mrs. P if it really mattered...if she remembered those days with her own children...and if, perhaps, she wished she would've walked them to class...just for a few extra minutes with them.

You see...I have this thing...this need. This need to hold and love and snuggle my children for as long as I can.


I want to walk them to class, even when they're seniors.

I want them to miss me so we can have "sleep in" days.

I'm not sure if I was wrong to walk Miss E. to class, or if I just have an acute understanding of this weird, wacky time warp we live in with our children (you know, the one where we put our children to bed one night as newborn babies, and when we go to them the next morning, suddenly they're 8? Yeah...that time warp)...but I do KNOW that it felt right.

Miss E. won't always want me to walk her to class...but, as long as she does...I'm gonna do it.


And I don't care what the secretary thinks.

This time is too fleeting...and I want to capture every moment that I can.

37 comments:

  1. I love this! I think time travels way too quickly and you are so right. Snuggle them as long as they want it, because the day will come when they don't. Big sigh.

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  2. You def. did the right thing. Like you said in a blink of an eye she will be 16 and not want mom walking her to class :)

    Glad you two enjoyed some extra snuggles this morning

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  3. Good for you! I spend every day with my little guy wishing he would stay small cuz I know someday he will tower over me and I wont be able to cuddle him in my lap!

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  4. I feel the same exact way. I used to do those types of things with my kids and am soooo glad I did. Now they are 23 and 25. Don't stop those "special times"

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  5. Oh I totally hope my son lets me walk him to class and I don't care who has a problem with it!

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  6. I let my son have a free day from school every once in awhile. That way we can spend some time together.
    They do grow up way too fast!

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  7. You GO MAMA!!!! Everybody needs a snuggle, personal, me time, kid time whatever kind of day i want to make it day. Because it does go by in a blink of an eye. cherish it, love it, hold it. We only get one shot at this.

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  8. I think it's great that you did this! I'm a teacher, but I do the same kinds of things for my own kids. Snuggles and cuddles are too priceless to let slip by! My own biological kids always come first even though I dearly love the 24 students in my classroom! I like to encourage that kind of connection between my students and their parents! Kuddos to you!

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  9. 100% right there with ya~!~ We have those days in our house too! my little girl loves those days... and the secretaries can be so snippy at her school (yep I have snipped back at them once or twice ...oops!) ... but I don't care... love the girl... make her feel special! I love those days too! ;)
    Jenn~

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  10. So very, very sweet. Your daughter is so beautiful. I agree with you 100% and I feel that I'll make the same decisions one day!

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  11. Good for you...who cares what the secretary says/thinks?!?! I never understood why my mother was always wanting to do everything with me - until I had the babe. Now I know why time is so precious!! Kids grow up way too fast!

    ~WM

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  12. You did the right thing... capture every moment... it is over in a blink.

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  13. Props to you mama! I love when our 8 year olds want US!

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  14. Good for you! I know what you mean when you say one day they are newborns, and the next they are grown...

    Keep enjoying every minute.

    Oh and that Secretary doesn't know what shes missing.

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  15. My son will head to kindergarten next year and I am realizing how my freedom to take and do things with him any old time is quickly coming to an end....but then I realized that some life experiences and time with family is more important than a spelling test etc. As a teacher, who is taking some time off to be home with my boys, I think you savored your moment today and I plan to savor mine plenty! The secretary probably would understand if she stepped back from the "job" part of her day. Day in and day out you lose that a little bit. And there are probably some instances where it is good that she questions the situations that come before her. LOVED your blog today....it came at the right time today! My heart feels a little more at ease about this big step that is quickly approaching.

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  16. Love this! It is so easy to take special times for granted... I will snuggle my little bug for as long as he lets me!

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  17. You couldn't have written that more beautifully. Great Post!

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  18. Sweet post! My little boy's first year went by so fast for me. I am definitely a big advocate of cherishing every moment!!
    Good job to you, Mama! Sleeping in and having some extra one-on-one time with her Mama will be something she will always remember. It was more important than whatever lesson she would have learned in school that morning.
    :-)
    ~Heather

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  19. I love this post. I felt the same way about my children as they were growing up. I love when my grown/married daughter calls me and says 'I wish you lived closer, I need a mom day'. It is great to know that she still remembers how close we were when she was growing up. Good for you, walk them to class as long as they will let you.

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  20. I think that is great! I wish my mom would've done things like that for me.

    My mema used to let me take MHD's, which were awesome and very much needed!

    MHD= Mental Health Day.

    Will you be MY mom?

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  21. Good for you!! I would have done the same thing.

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  22. you are absolutely right! I LOVED the days my mom would keep me home or let me sleep late just to spend special time together. What wonderful memories and opportunities to bond!

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  23. That she wanted you to walk with her says so much! Who cares what the secretary thinks, she won't be having your grandchildren :-)

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  24. So... Perfect. And poignant. And... wonderful. I love this post! And I love sleep in days; can't wait to have some of my own with my munchkins!

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  25. So, so true. Not that I have any first hand experience at the whole leaving them at school thing. :) I hear your heart in this and love the encouragement to always follow the mommy instincts.

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  26. I would have to say that I agree with you on all counts. As a parent you have to learn from your child as they get older when they want that extra time and grab hold of it. In all honesty my oldest stayed home a whole day not becasue she was sick but she just needed a day.

    If your child was struggling in school this might not be the same story but that is a whole nother post.

    Good for you and yeah the secretary didn't quite get it.

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  27. You are so right! She will always remember that you took a little extra time just for her, and love you for it! :)

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  28. RAWR to that secretary!! SO glad you walked her anyway.

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  29. You've brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful...exactly how I think. Sleep in days are the best!

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  30. This made me tear up and miss my own mom. You two must have been cut from the same cloth. As a (somewhat) grown-up version of a little girl like your daughter, we will always savor and cherish those moments.

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  31. I have the need to cuddle and smother my children a little too much too! I love that my daughter blows a kisses as she gets out of the car and walks into school. How long do you think that is going to last!

    I think it is awesome that you let your daughter sleep in! One time I remember my mom walk me on a school day and was like- hey you want to go to the museum. And we did. We both played hooky and had a blast! That was sometime in grammar school and it is a day I will never forget!

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  32. That is so beautiful and so well put. Good for you!

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  33. My mom would let us have what she called "mental health days". They meant so much to us and we have fond memories of time spent with her. I think things like that and what you did for your daughter are so important. It is something she wont' ever forget!

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  34. Aww Ok I seriously started to tear up on this one! I have a 2 yr old and I don't even want to think about the days when I can't hold him and snuggle him!

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